My life as a wife & new mother...

Here i sit listening to my 2 year old beg me "outside, go bye bye, outside" Which I'd love to accomodate her, but nap time is in 1/2 an hour, so what do i do? I do have plans to run to the grocery store on a mission to make my chicken more interesting tonight, we are all tired of the same ol' same ol'. I don't quite know what I'm going to get, but i'll search recipes and find something good. ANYWAY- I just put Kennedy down for a nap, promising to take her outside when she gets up. I have tons of chores I need to be doing here, so I'll have to keep this brief. It would be nice if I had help, bu my darling husband doesn't think he needs to do anything, and my stepdaughter is never here, and when she IS here, she simply makes a big mess and leaves it for me to deal with, because again, I apparently need no help. I am taking a big box into her room today and picking up all the crap on her floor and I'll put it somewhere til she comes home to scare the crap outta her, show her what I realy mean when I say "clean your room". She apparently thinks piling her clothes in front of the closet is an ok thing to do, and I WILL prove her wrong. The other day I left her a note that she couldn't miss in the morning to put away the handful of clean dishes and wash the 1/2 sinkful of dirty dishes leftover from the meal I didn't get to eat the night before. She washed the cups only and then made a pot of coffee and a pan of eggs and then left with her boyfriend before cleaning anything else. I was so pissed when I got home i could have killed her. Dan (my hubby) says "maybe she didn't get your note..." but I found it upside down on the counter, right next to the huge coffe stain she left. i just can't take this anymore! I am so tired of being treated like a maid, I'm ready to tell her to just get out if she can't help me. She's never here anyway, it's like we're a hotel, we keep all her crap, she comes home to eat, shower, maybe sleep, and that's like once a week if at all. She doesn't seem to care how anyone else feels, she's only worried about herself and her boyfriend. But then i feel bad, her mom is so far away and her biological dad is pretty worthless, so what do I do? I don't know anymore. I love her, but I want to strangle her- does that even make sense? Anyway, I better get this laundry sorted and these dishes done before Y&R starts and Kennedy wakes up. Thanks to anyone who listens...